Motherhood is an amazing but challenging experience. It usually presents a new phase of life, and it can be quite an adventure, as well as a nightmare.
A woman’s body goes through enormous changes during pregnancy, childbirth and after conception. However, even more challenging than the physical changes are the emotional ones.
It’s Not Easy
Childbirth takes the biggest toll on women. Sometimes, it may be difficult to accept and appreciate your ‘different’ body and those changes which nature causes within you.
If you have lost your self-esteem and body-confidence in the process, know that you’re not alone. Many women distrust and fear the process of female evolution.
It isn’t only the inevitability of nine months of pregnancy and labor which they cannot sidestep but the endless future. This is why it is so important to appreciate the importance of self-love during this journey.
Always remember that you are deserving of more self-care, self-love, and self-nurturing during your postpartum journey. If you can learn to love others, you can also learn to love yourself.
Better still, you need to love yourself so much, so that your offspring can tap on the overflow.
Make Peace with Your Body postpartum
Self-nurturing postpartum means learning to make peace with your body after childbirth. It also means loving your postpartum body, and accepting the reality of the body you see in the mirror.
Many mamas will relate to the fact that it isn’t easy to accept their postpartum body. Most often than not, your body is wrecked, never mind the emotional and mental battles that come shortly after conception.
However, the scars, pain, backache, and tediousness you’re left with is a tiny sacrifice to the lifetime of beautiful memories with your family. Instead of criticism and self-loathing, focus on appreciating what that vessel has done to you and your family.
Commit to your postpartum Journey
Committing to this journey is vital and rewarding in so many ways. It means committing to loving yourself unconditionally and knowing that the walk towards your ‘better’ isn’t always going to look or feel pretty, but it is absolutely necessary for you to truly win at it.
This journey calls for you to make an unconditional relationship with yourself, just the way you are – your body weight, loose skin, stretch marks, depression, scars, cellulite and the ridiculous jelly belly. Can you enter into an unconditional relationship with that?
Embrace Your Authenticity
There are so many posts, especially on popular Instagram pages, showing perfect mark-free bumps and postpartum bodies. You may easily find yourself envious and put the pressure on your body. However, it is important to appreciate the fact that everyone’s journey is different, and everyone’s body is different.
Good news is, you can find encouragement from the honest, raw and vulnerable posts from the body positive community where individuals spread awareness and encouragement in regards to positive body image and body confidence. Mamas should work on being OK with their bodies, knowing too well that healing is never linear, but it happens when we are willing to break open and trust the process.
Your Postpartum Body is Still Sexy and Incredible!
I’m continually blown away by what a woman’s body can do. It takes your body approximately nine months to bake and bring forth life. Your bodies gets stretched and put under pressure like nothing else.
It’s only fair if you are kind to it afterward as you let it recover naturally by fueling it up with rest, the right liquids and food to help you breastfeed and heal. At this point, your body doesn’t need any strenuous work zone or exercise whatsoever.
Purpose to make healthy food choices – be keen to nourish yourself with the right diet. Whole grains, protein, and fresh fruit will boost your postpartum energy and give you the vitamins and minerals you need to keep up.
Take time to properly heal – body, mind, and spirit. Immerse in a healthy eating routine. Learn to nourish your mind with inspiring books, prayer, and meditation.
Develop daily self-nurturing mantras that will nurture your spirit and soul. Eventually, you will love yourself through it.
Truth is: your stretch marks DO NOT define you, your scar DOES NOT define you, and your WEIGHT does not define you. You are incredible, you are a mother and you just birthed an amazing human.
The BoPo Community is here for You!
The BoPo Community will encourage you through this journey. We invite mothers who are not afraid to share the reality of their postpartum body to encourage other moms to accept, deal and savor this beautiful journey of motherhood.
For the moms who have been through this journey, what advice can you give to other moms in regards to self-care, self-love and postpartum body confidence? What are some of the daily self-care habits, affirmations, and mantras that have propelled you through the postpartum journey?
Let’s share our experiences as we encourage each other through the journey of self-love, self-care and self-nurturing postpartum.
Remember: motherhood is a beautiful experience, and it should never be endured, but savored.